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All my life I was told, “make sure you go to school, educate yourself and then you will find a job and things will be fine.” I wish someone had told me that after years of school you end up at a job that feels like a prison that pays you. I wish I had been told that after a job that’s it! Because that’s how I feel. I’ve worked so hard for years, got the degrees and the job, yet I am truly experiencing an unhappiness.
When I was developing my technique as a dancer, I remember people telling me how important it was to have a back-up plan or another job. Of course I listened because I am all about back up plans and explored Creative Arts Therapy (CAT), which truly educated me on a whole new level and I would never regret my experience and my education, but now I work somewhere that I feel stifled. There are many reasons why I truly dislike my job; such as the fact that I am the only person my age in the building, no one knows or understands the kind of work I do as a CAT and no one cares. I feel alone and frustrated. Of course the next step for me is to find another job right?
Wrong. I have come to the conclusion that a 9-5 is not me. Call me spoiled, although I do not consider myself even close to spoiled considering my socio-economic background and the struggle I endured to get to where I am. Call me a brat, or even feel free to say “HEY! IT’S A PART OF LIFE!” The truth is, I don’t believe it has to be a part of your job if you don’t want it to be. Maybe it’s my inner artist or the frustration that I haven’t truly fulfilled my need to dance. I don’t think this is the case, but a full-time 9-5 job where you are contained and must act a certain way all the while ignoring the hypocrisy and hierarchy isn’t for me.
Staff members already look at me dirty because I have an office and more education than they do, but they forget that I worked my ass off just to get where I am now. Why am I saying all of this? Because I realize how much of my time I want to focus on dance. I mean I didn’t give my plan A up, I just combined my Plan A & B together, which actually has been pretty amazing up until now. Now I just want to bang my head against my desk until I bleed and maybe pass out which might give me a few days off from work, but would not solve my problem permanently.
I’ve told myself I am going to leave this place the way I have always wanted to, with an amazing dance opportunity that will not only support me financially on a HUGE scale but will give us the boost needed for us to grow. I WILL THRIVE. I will not allow my life to pass me by at a job that makes me feel miserable and unhappy. I worked hard not to just get out of poverty but to be happy doing what I love to do, which is dance and I WILL DO IT. That is my dream job and I will get it.