Something that most if not all people have trouble regarding. When we go through experiences and feel hurt by someone we want to hold on to the hurt. Sometimes we think holding onto this will make the other person feel bad and we will receive retribution by saying or thinking “We will never forgive” them. Other times we hold onto not wanting to forgive believing it will be a barrier or defense mechanism for ourselves against the other person. However, the only person we are truly putting up a barrier against is that between ourselves.
Well you may be saying. “Yeah, yeah. Heard this all before. I can’t forgive the person for what they did to me.” And yes. The person may have done something horrible to you. But let us turn the looking glass to ourselves. How many times have we done something to someone else that was wrong whether it was intentional or not? Has someone ever told you that you did or said something to them and it hurt them, yet you were unaware of this fact in the moment?
We all make mistakes and succumb to our lowest nature at times. Although this doesn’t make the wrong action right, if we change our mindset to believe that the person(s) whom hurt us did their best with the information they had at the time, it may help us think differently about the situation. In addition to this, there is a technique I am going to share that will assist in clearing negative emotional connections to a situation and help you to forgive those involved. Time to let it go honey. Let’s move on!
These quotes below give insight on the power of forgiveness:
When a deep injury is done to us, we never heal until we forgive. – Nelson Mandela
If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive. -Mother Teresa
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong. -Mahatma Gandhi
It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody. -Maya Angelou
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies. -Martin Luther King Jr
All of the great people of our time, all of those we looked up to for support and guidance when the world was in turmoil spoke about the benefits of forgiveness. You, me and the entire world is in need of forgiveness so we can tap into the core of what forgiveness brings: love.
Below is the technique I mentioned above. It will help add more love into your being and create an attitude and aura of forgiveness. It is called the Hawaiian Prayer or Ho’oponopono.
This powerful prayer that has been used for decades, can be done anytime we need to forgive a situation, a person and yes, even ourselves…because of course we also need to forgive ourselves for our mess!
When you come across a moment that needs forgiveness just follow these simple steps:
Close your eyes and imagine what or who it is you need to forgive.
Notice a place in your body where you feel this pain, discomfort or dis-ease the most.
Focus on that point and say this words: I’m Sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
Repeat the words for at least 5 minutes and notice how you feel afterwards. (You may want to set a timer to keep track of the passing of time. Because if you really get into this, this could be an hour long exercise!)
Do this as often as and as many times as you need to for self-healing and release.
Enjoy your bliss. See y’all next month!